When I was little, I wanted to be just like Lois Lane from The New Adventures of Superman when I grew up, so I studied journalism and became a newspaper reporter. Well, being a newspaper reporter isn’t really so much fun in real life. Teri Hatcher moved on to be a character I don’t have any interest in mimicking on Desperate Housewives. And I needed a new strong, funny writer to look up to. Enter Elizabeth Gilbert.
I want to be Elizabeth Gilbert. Who doesn’t? She’s smart, witty, funny, wrote a wildly successful memoir, Eat, Pray, Love, and she even got to meet Oprah! (I don’t know much about her fashion sense and I’m annoyed as heck that I can’t seem to find her active Twitter account. But that doesn’t change the fact that if I could have dinner with any person alive I’d choose her.)
So when her new book, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage, came out I bought the hard cover, which is something I NEVER do. After Eat, Pray, Love, the woman could’ve titled her book Big Pile of Poo and I still would’ve bought the hardcover–and I’d venture to guess thousands of other women yogis would have too. I digress.
So it pains me to say that while there are many things about Committed that I liked, it was missing some of the personality and charisma of Eat, Pray, Love. I learned much by the thorough discussion on marriage in the Western world, and it definitely left me thinking about my own ideas about marriage and my relationship. While there were a few funny personal narratives, most of the book I just kept feeling like I had been magically telleported back to my college days and was reading a text book from a Women’s Lit class.
My assessment: Gilbert found herself (and found love) while she was writing Eat, Pray, Love.. and that just happens to be loads more entertaining than a story about the happily ever after. But that just makes me want to invite her to be my dinner guest even more so I can learn her secrets.
Did you read it? What did you think?
Bob Weisenberg says
Hi, Erica.
Haven't read either one, but it's hard not to know all about them anyway. My wife Jane read the first. There have been vigorous love/hate debates about the book in the Yoga blogosphere. (I can find these for you if you didn't see them.) Gilbert has been on TV a lot. Many reviews. And there's this excellent TED speech:
Elizabeth Gilbert on nurturing creativity
It's funny what you wrote about "Committed". Apparently it could have been much worse, because when Gilbert talks about it, she says she had to back and completely rewrite it after editor told her it was way too academic. I guess she didn't go far enough!
Bob Weisenberg
ElephantJournal.com
April says
I read Eat Pray Love (a few times) and adored it… so I've had Committed on my list of interests… but haven't gotten around to reading it mainly because I figured it would be entirely different from the first – when what I enjoyed was all the thoroughly yogini-ness of it. Plus I've been married succesfully for like 10 years and figured honestly that whatever she had to say on making peace with marriage – that none of it would be very newsworthy to me. lol
All that said – your mildly underwhelmed review has rekindled my interest in reading it. lol
Happily ever after is never all that interesting – that's why no one ever writes those books. Reminds me of Chris Rock's performance about how being happily married is boring.
Bob Weisenberg says
Funny you should mention that, April. People used to ask me if I regretted my first marriage. I answered, No, I can't really say that. But it was like reading a Russian novel.
Anahita says
Wow!! It's almost like you were in my head! I love Elizabeth Gilbert, too! Let's start a cult! No, really. In all seriousness, I did the same thing – buy the hardcover book (something I also NEVER do) and I have to say, i was prepared.
I was fortunate enough to hear her speak last year at the National Cathedral and she spoke a bit about her process of writing the book "Committed" (I'll copy/paste the washington post article below)
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/03/29/AR2009032902185.html
Anyways, I totally agree. Let's have her over for dinner! 🙂
SpoiledYogi says
Anahita,
Let's make a day out of it.. I think she'd be fun to hang out with at the beach, too. We can fly kites and build sand castles and go snorkeling! We'll all be yoga BFFs!
Anahita says
Count me in! 🙂